The last time you reposted something about mental health awareness. I am sure you would have pondered urself inside out. You asked the same question to yourself and found it relatable. Isn’t it? If yes then next time you throw your opinion on someone try to be patient because the world is no more transparent. One quote barks about "keep smiling while life is turning upside down" while the other says "it’s ok to reveal things and feel the same till you sink in". Meanwhile the BFF we say or the go-to person is more for sharing memes and mentioning in the story and post these days. The person you are jealous of saying: by god how lucky he or she is. Just ask yourself- you want to try fitting in their shoes? I hope your conscience is true enough to answer the fact. They paved huge rocks and mountains to make things appear perfect because if they don’t then they(society) will start speaking about oh I told you don’t go for it! Ohh I said this was not meant for! While on the other hand, they(society) say when in doubt give it a shot. Just tell me why this philosophy doesn’t make sense. Why the smiling face always is meant to be a happy perfect life. Why having thousands of people around still most of us find ourselves helpless when the ocean of hurdles come. Yes, I know problems are in everyone's life. Yes, I know ranting about it is no solution. But will you zip ur mouth? Or for god sake will you stop judging someone's so-called perfect life. Will you stop talking about success and failure? And someone's social sites post and stories. "If you can’t give ears please don’t give tears." Now they say ohh we should understand everyone is surviving in a tough world because of COVID. But naah man they were surviving in a tough world before even the COVID played its role and you wanna who was the virus- each and everyone who poked their nose in someone's life, so well that some did suicide, some gone nuts and some forgot their path and what they are in reality. This is disgusting stop it or else stop posting about mental health, anxiety, and depression.
So a few days before this happened with my one friend. She came crying to me I was like what happened? What’s wrong? You were all good three hours before I saw your insta story. She started: "you know that’s where the problem starts anxiety doesn’t come by warning you or like fever or other sicknesses you can’t see or explain. It's just anger to end and destroy everything. It hits like death comes all of sudden and you just can’t breathe. I was shocked (boom). I apologized to her for every time she needed me and I couldn’t understand or be there. She then said you know how it feels when there are no ears to listen to you. It sucks when people say hey I am there for you but every time they fail. It kills when you knock on the door of your best friend and they say oh I am busy! ohhh I will call uhh back! Bro I have class and exams too! ohh my phone was silent! Or the most disgusting part when they make fun saying see I told but naah you always do the same! ohh you still not over it! ohh you are so bad! what is wrong just move on! Ehhh you have fallen for that a jerk... ohh you love that piece of shit.... ohh I know why you called again you are behind someone toxic ....Okk fine I know everyone is busy and all then please say it on the face and stop making fake promises that I m there no matter what because the above statement doesn’t reflect 0.1% of it. Why everyone just wanna run away when the real hour comes." And then she said something which shook my world she mentioned “people ask me to stop being available for everyone because it drains out my emotional energy but how can I explain them I know how they helpless they feel when they just want an ear to remove frustration so they can dusk their knees and get going. I know they don’t want any other help because they are capable enough to fight those problems but that stuff boiling inside their head needs just a soul to listen it’s ok even if they don’t understand. And that’s the reason I try to be available for everyone because that’s what kindness means.” After all this conversation I could see her smiling back again because all she wanted was someone to be there when she needed the most. She was trying to explain that happy quotes on insta story, dancing post on ig or those snap streaks doesn’t reflect her life it’s what we are asked to do to show off the world. She tried doing that because she thought that might act as an alibi for her problems. Talking to a stranger gives her some peace when no one for her but that doesn’t conclude she or he is slut or bad. A person practicing positivity and the following self-love after getting betrayed by everyone doesn’t mean she is the happiest person. As you haven’t seen his or her darkest nights or heart aching cry after trying almost everything and getting failed.
Hence, I hope now next time if someone complains about something, you give them ears not a reason for tears. I know we are humans we end up doing something regretful unintentionally but we can learn. I know they say don’t compare your situation or problems to others while they are sharing theirs we mistakenly end up doing that every time but we owe them an apology. Just a sorry with a full heart can flip things. So hereby I start:- I am sorry if I have hurt you intentionally or unintentionally. Said something which ends up adding one more insecurity, I am sorry with my whole heart. Please forgive me❤️ -Pavitra Ahir💕💫