Have you ever contemplated over your past choices and made you wonder if they were worth your sacrifice? Maybe we were always pushed to make the right choices and prioritize the worthy things. But what if out of all these worthy choices, your mind yet visualises the flaw in your previous choices that now confronts you to feel guilty and sad, oppresses your mind to think if they were correct then.
I know how hard it can get to think that our choices are right especially when some of us are hardly connected to ourselves. Well then in that case it does become difficult what choices are worth counting and which are worth giving up. Meanwhile I feel there's no point regretting. We all have our definition of success and that we are an alignment of our values. Remember if you are satisfied with the person you are today, then there's no point regretting because you are satisfied with your choice even when you did not reach your desired outcome. Every outcome is a result of your sacrifice and so is every joy.
If your choices brings you happiness, adds am exultant satisfaction to your pleasing life adds meaning to your current path, your choices were worth sacrificing. Do not try to trade your happiness today for the happiness of tomorrow. Summing up this entire chain of thoughts, if you felt a sense of purpose, made a difference to others, motivated you to praise yourself a little everyday, your sacrifices are likely to feel worth it. Just like Zana Hadid said, "You have to really believe not only in yourself; you have to believe the world is worth your sacrifices". -Khushi Dholakiya
Love is that intact feeling that binds the world together. The shared goal throughout the world is everyone wants to love and be loved. When we all lose hope and have nothing to believe in, we feel lonely. During this time, why not believe in love? It keeps you going even in your darkest of times.
Sometimes love is not as simple as we thought it to be. Sometimes it often questions your beliefs and your actions, that if you can fight that hard, yet you have to fall into pieces, there is nothing to hold onto. To be fully loved, we have to open and release the obstacles that binds it. We all have sharp edges and bruises where our smooth part used to be. But during this time you have to believe that you did not stop believing in love but with the very very idea of idealised form of love. One that doesn't expect or demand. Although you can now venture on the more realer form of love. Often we live in a fairytale of how we want our love to be and then we are equipped the opportunity of accepting the way it exists in real life. It's like if it's not flawed how is it beautiful?
It's like we all want a love that consumes us. We want passion, adventure and even a little danger.
This one is when and where different people can make or take away different stories. It can really set good examples about how people see the same things but with different perspectives.
Talk about repressive revenge. Maybe the good revenge. One always realizes that their enemy is sitting right there playing games at them, so much that they don't even have to do that being the 'enemy'. Ever heard of frenemy? Yeah. So what does one do sometimes? One can decide to be observant and look out for themselves. They can take the revenge by not giving their (fr)enemy what they want which is exactly one being played. So don't get played at, never tell them that you knew about it, don't give them that satisfaction. Learn to watch, to listen and to fight. This will not only make you better but also prevent you from stopping down to their level.
Talk about Known Sacrifice. Take into consideration your own mother, the epitome of sacrifice. Personally, as I have grown up, i have realized the unbelievable amount a mother sacrifices abstract moments and material things for her child and also that i or probably none if us would be able to do it the way our moms do. But sometimes a mother forgets that her child has the potential to know her equally well as she knows the child. So being the child you sometimes know how, when and what she sacrifices for you or someone else. You don't have any option but to smile back at yourself and tell yourself and her how grateful you are to have her. True, sometimes you can carry over the sacrifice for her but many a times she simply won't let you and all you can do is letting it go, without telling her that you know how much it matters to her, how much that sacrifice makes her happy, how much love does that sacrifice show. You just feel that amazing moment with her and ket happy tears well in your eyes.
There are or at least can be many more stories that unfold from the same quote. whatever the story might be the quote in itself stands powerful, meaningful and thoughtful. It touches that one spot within you where you know how much it means to know & to not let that be known.
Yeah, there is a good chance you have heard the statement "you have changed now, i liked your old self better. You are not the same anymore." or "you have got an attitude now."
Now the only problem with those statements is that they are direct conclusions that too about someone who one is not. People making these statements draw conclusions without knowing the story. Now the fact that you have changed cannot be changed, nor it has to be but yet due to these people you doubt yourself thoroughly.
So everytime someone says those above mentioned statements to you, here's what you can do. Ask yourself, was the change actually made by you or you had no choice but to make the change. Also, would you want to change anything about yourself now? Sometimes changes aren't optional, they are to be made for the better good and better purpose. Also, if you are happy with the person that you are now you have got nothing to worry about. So if your answers suffice these conditions, you are good to go. You must then understand that only because you know how to spend your time and channelize your efforts into things differently now and it's different from what 'those' people know doesn't make your change wrong and their point right.
Personally I have learned that there is nothing more important than my own inner peace and any change that protects it and adds happy fuel to it is not only valid. Change is inevitable. It's the only constant. Any change will teach you something new. And so any change will improvise you. Change always improvises.
Talking about originality, well never fear if change disrupts it. Change actually has nothing to do with originality. Again change improvises and originality is born within you it cannot be changed, copied or improvised. It stays with you forever as it is. Your original self is what you create of yourself.
So today be proud of this amazing human you are. For you are brave enough to embrace & withstand any change that comes your way. You have been doing great, so please don't let anyone else tear you down. You know yourself the best & so you know what's best for you too. So choose wisely for you and change only makes you wiser everytime.
Did reading this make you frown? Or did it bring a wave of relief and acceptance within you? No matter what I insist that you analyze it.
Everyone is different. Everyone has their own opinion and its not going to be same as yours. How is all of these related to friends? You'll get there soon.
Friendship. A small word with a gazillion of memories or perhaps interpretations. What's friendship to you? Two or maybe a group of friends always being there for each other, never letting the other one down, always supporting each other, never letting you feel alone, no betrayals, lending a shoulder to cry on or celebrating togetherness in euphoria? Or maybe more? And we are not even including the lies and wrong steps we have all supported each other with while the other one took a wrong desicion. And that's a very beautiful and charming picture of friendship painted with a little funk maybe.
But is it really though? There's this flaw in the picture and it's been there all along. The flaw is in the always and never.
There have been times when your friend wasn't there for you. When they decided to focus on other things but you. Sometimes they had also said things that had you shattered. Sometimes they were too busy to reach out to to you. That day you had to weep into your pillow or maybe sit in room alone watching a movie as they were unavailable to celebrate the occasion.
From not responding to your texts, calls & not giving the reply you wanted to hear to shattering betrayals. If not all of it, atleast somethings MUST have been faced by you. That day we all questioned the meaning of friendship.
Your friend is a different person. They don't percieve things as you do. They have their own opinions and story. It's not wrong of them to put themselves first sometimes. Then what is friendship? It's precisely what remains.
Bad experiences and mistakes often go hand in hand. The only thing to observe is if the person who made the mistake is the same one that underwent the bad experience. Sadly, sometimes that is not the case. Even more sadly, sometimes there is never a mistake made, only a mistake planned. And they do it so well that even after the same is revealed they play it extremely cool like 'oh was that so?' I can't even... If you know, you know what I am talking about. So if you have had experiences enough played at... This is what happens 'Forgive them, not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace'. Sometimes it's too big a mistake but you forgive them anyway. (Big important and right step already taken) You know they are toxic and are going to walk back to you with that plastered smile on their faces, for some or the other reason, you have known it all along. Taking a revenge doesn't sound tempting anymore as you know the cycle will continue forever then. What matters to you is not stooping down to their level and giving your soul the inner peace it deserves. Great! Going good so far! But yet you forget that the further choice lies with you. You have had bad experience but you don't have to feel it again. So you can always choose walking away. They can ruin it only if provided the opportunity. So you drift away, little by little, you'll always know how. It might be a long process also difficult but a necessary ones. You don't deserve that disaster. So choose to be happy, take the right action, move on and promise yourself you won't ever rely on some people and never give them more chances to ruin your life. Cause otherwise, it will only become more difficult to 1.connect, trust and help others and 2.to make your life as happy as you deserve. @mirakee@writersnetwork@krupamania_1973@saakshisomaiya@khushiidholakiya #writerstolli#tod_wt
How often do we hear people warning someone or how often do you waren yourself of the dangerous outer world. At some point of time we have all met either one or all of the following: liars, backstabbers & fake friends. I remember my 10th grade teacher telling us that we have no idea what the world outside our homes hold for us. Today when I step out I truly realize what she meant. It surely teaches us a lot of things and makes us stronger. But is that a choice or a mere compulsion? Do we really want (have) to be strong that way? The answer to that is Yes if the world continues to prevail as it is. The outside world is so pessimistic that we forget to look at the optmisitc alternative. So here it is: instead of buckling ourselves up for the worldly tactics why don't we leave ourselves free to show how much the world can change if treated with love, goodness and kindness. I know what you are thinking, that it would be foolish to do that as there are people that can take advantage of it and no one would like to be played by such tactics. Thats exactly my point if we don't want to get played at by such tactics then playing tactics too is not the solution. The solution lies in removing all those spiteful tactics. If you think that you might be seen as a weak and pitiful person then think again, "pity the living & above all those who live without love". The world as it is is already a dull place there's no point to making it more dull by giving in what others want. Also love, kindness and hope have the powers to set you free from within. You'll not be only making an impact to the outer world but even on yourself. You'll start leaving a happier, more optimistic, grateful and satisfactory life. It will bring with it all the healing & self love that you need. And at that time we will all understand that there's nothing more serene and peaceful than not ruining our own inner peace and that theres nothing more worse than destroying others'. The world just now bleeds with perils it's time we let it heal with all the love & care it needs. It's a collective and a difficult effort but a less difficult one than thriving in the prevailing world. Afterall our future is upto us. @writersnetwork@mirakee@krupamania_1973@khushiidholakiya@saakshisomaiya #writerstolli#tod_wt
So many people tend to mix up the two words: hope and expectations. They are two very different words. Expectation might be what puts you into depression but hope is what can pull you out of it. One might be just making up false positivity but the other teaches you to believe that there is positivity.
Strength is born from within and that's why one is never too tired to do something they really want to. This also can be implemented other way round, not using your strength doesn't mean you are lazy or careless; instead sometimes it's better to not choose to use it as it's not worth it. The reason to that is not because there is a definite outcome already or that you are fighting a lost battle but because you don't want to ruin your inner peace. Your strength will surely depict how ready you are to change the current situation but it won't change EVERY one's opinion. For eg, your friend might see the strength you had to leave a toxic person but when you utilize that strength to tell it to the toxic person, they'll blame you in every way unthinkable.