Prioritizing one's own self is never a wrong move, because in the long run, sooner or later you will experience time with your own self. The more you spend time with yourself, the more you become distant from the worldly mortals and at the same time you feel an amazing interconnectedness with the entire cosmos. You realise that being a part of the whole, you are still apart from all. In the scheme of things, you hold a place that has a purpose and once fulfillment of the purpose happens, you are back to the main source. Enlightenment is not a difficult task, it is happening to you in every single second of your life, when you are totally present and are embracing everything that is offered to you in the moment, be it happiness or sadness, you are one and the same. You are gradually becoming a being that is emotional, fearless and compassionate, but you are no more emotionally driven. You realise nothing actually is lost, everything is just part of the bigger picture and hence it is to be embraced with all its entirety. Once you acknowledge these, a door of ultimate revelation and bliss opens up for you.