I was anxiously waiting with my son at the child psychologist's office. After a long wait of six months, I had managed to get her appointment for my six year old son, Aarav. Aarav had been dull lately. He had lost interest in studies, always irritable. He was not able to focus on simple things. A friend of mine suggested me to take her to Dr. Namita, child psychologist at Max hospital, New Delhi.
Finally, the psychologist came, she was a fair lady with brown eyes, that clearly showed dedication towards work and compassion towards children.
After a formal introduction, she asked Aarav to go to the play area. I was a little confused why she did that. Turning to me, she asked, "Mrs. Agarwal, could you please tell me something about Aarav's schedule?"
"Yes, Why not. Doctor, it is so competitive atmosphere, you see. I send my son to so many different classes. After school, when he comes back at 3 pm, I send him to dance class. From there, he straight away goes for swimming. But, that is only for Monday, Wednesday and Friday. Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday, he goes for table tennis and painting. And Sunday, only skating and chess class. But, he is very dull these days. Don't know what has happened. He behaves rudely, very dull throughout the day. And his marks, aweful, doctor, this session, his performance is deteriorating like anything. You please do something."
Dr. Namita thought for a while and answered,
"I am sorry but I don't treat adults. It is you need to understand that Aarav is just a little boy. Please stop transforming him into a working robot, ma'm. He is a child, and you who need to understand that this wonderful phase is never going to come back. Let him live. He can enjoy things only if he has some time for himself, when he can do things, he wants to. Please take him home. Have a conversation with him, spend time with him and get to know, what he actually likes. Stop extrapolating your ambitions upon him."
I sat there, silent, realizing my mistake while Aarav enjoyed his play time. He looked like a chirpy bird again.