Pay attention and you'll see how often you talk to avoid awkward silence.
Since when did silence become awkward and constant, pointless chit chat become normal?
Of course having meaningful conversation and even casual small talk have their own beauty and place in helping us bond and have a good time.
But notice this: there are people who you're only comfortable having small talk with. Then there's some closer people who you have deep conversations with. But it's only the closest few people to you that you're comfortable being silent with.
That's because through words, you can only share your past or thoughts/beliefs with someone. Through your silent presence, you share your Being.
As you consistently become silent in your mind, your entire being (including your behaviour and speech) will always be spontaneously sprouting out of silence. Like Rumi, who would walk and whirl as words would spontaneously come out of his mouth. Words that people around him would rush to capture and record as poetry that would touch hearts for hundreds of years to come.
That's the beauty of one who has dissolved himself into silent presence.
A lot of people are full of fear and anxiety at this time. And I get it, there is a real threat to people with weak/damaged immune systems. But guess what weakens the immune system? Fear and stress.
There are a lot of theories about the virus and I've been researching a bit into it out of curiosity but I feel like in the bigger picture, what's more important to talk about is how we choose to respond to it.
Peace of mind starts with recognizing what is in your control and accepting what isn't. What is in your control is managing your diet, exercising, sleeping well, *getting fresh air and sunlight* and paying attention to your thought patterns, because they filter your experience of life.
The more you resist and fear what happens in life, the more you become blind. And the more you accept and live in the present moment, the more you start to see the beauty of it all.
This whole situation has not only been incredible for the environment, but has also given the majority of the world a chance to step out of the hamster wheel of non-stop working- go go go mentality. It has given us the opportunity to slow down, reconnect with ourselves, and to be reminded of what is truly important.
Relax, stay healthy, and instead of resisting the solitude, see it as a blessing to help you reconnect with yourself and get creative.
Free yourself from yourself. This is a short freestyle spoken word piece I wrote today.
We are all operating under a personality/identity. When we meet people, the behaviour we show is like handing them your business card which identifies you.
Every time you meet up with someone, they expect you to behave according to that same identity, more or less. We give some room for small changes in behaviour based on emotions/situations, but generally speaking we expect each other to behave in a consistent identity.
Why? Because it's evolutionary. As long as you stay consistent in your personality, the people around you can predict your behaviour and reactions, which provides a sense of safety and security to them. Unpredictability is unsafe. So our minds are conditioned to stick to an identity (which is formed through a combination of many factors--nurture and nature).
99% of people live their entire lives without ever questioning whether the concept of a personality is actually the truth of what you are. We just assume that our personality is who we are at the deepest level.
But as you start to take your attention away from everything outside of you and turn it inward, you start to observe yourself in each moment and notice that you are acting. Always playing this character.
The fact that something deeper in you notices that you're playing this character proves that you are not this character. So what exactly in you recognizes that you're playing this character? This the question you have to find the answer to.
This character that you and your friends and family hold onto is limiting your experience of life. As soon as you recognize this secret, you start to burn away your limitations and grow into your true potential in this life.
Your actions stop coming from past conditioning. You act spontaneously in each moment. You don't need to maintain an image for other people. You genuinely say and do what you feel in your heart in each moment without the pressure you used to put on yourself for pleasing the people around you. You open yourself up to possibilities. You become more grateful and start to move in harmony with life.
I recollected these beautiful lines when mulling over a few subjects presented in the book. I value the book in full attention, just as Eckhart Tolle describes the beauty of being in the moment in #ThePowerofNow. Eckhart illustrates the state of Being in deep bliss in an utterly spectacular way in this #selfhelp manual. It points at how our mind plays a significant role in distracting us from the beauty in the moment. So my takeaway: awakening to the state of consciousness is moving out from the illusions our minds manifest, dear Eckhart. I could connect it to a lively personal experience. It inspires me to say what I felt. We are sometimes mesmerized that when we were kids, we used to have a power of focusing on elementary nature that we have missed being grown up. The fact is, back then, you used to be in the moment; you used to focus on what's in the present. As kids, you used to get a clarity of the blinking red-blue dim hues in a dark clear sky. Your eyes would follow that aeroplane in the space, something that was happening at that moment, which you miss today due to the humdrum in your mind. It's right in front of you, the very same thing it used to be. Don't miss that moment!