Be the anchor of your own ship
Yes! all the destructions are painful and dark may it be a slow poison or a rapid strike. It drags you into the darkness where all you have is your flesh and your broken heart. That time would seem the worst, the toughest and the ugliest, you may also feel this is the end, that there is no way going back and no reason to move ahead.
But this will also be the time when you will have to ignite the hope buried down beneath your fears and be the anchor of your own ship. Always remember, you are never responsible for any person or their actions and so is nobody else responsible for you or any of your doings. This brings us to the place which says why it is so important to look out for ourselves and not wait for anybody to pull us out of our miseries. Everybody has their own battles to fight, fighting their own first is what a wise man will choose.