There're innumerable phases in lives that constantly keep pulling us backwards. This is for everyone. So basically, it's all about a track, where you're fully guarded, riding your bicycle while the wind chooses the direction of friction. Consider a river, where you're swimming opposing the stream motion. You know, you'll definitely reach the bank but not that fixed spot. You must know how to swim back to your corner. Mind you, you've another option as well, to turn your location into the destination. It's all on you. Easy to say, difficult to sort out. But after all, it's about you, so who's to decide. There's always something horrible involving all of us. When we say move on, by default, we've considered that it means to forget. But, NO. It's humane that what we badly want to erase, is engraved even deeper. So, when you tell yourself to move on, it's a gradual process of hurting that thought's ego. As in, you need to not let the thought of your darkest hours haunt you in broad daylight. You can never completely wipe out something unless you've got Amnesia and stuff. So what you need to learn is to make everything a part of you. Don't chase life. Chase yourself. Never be a control freak when it's about your life. Tighten the reigns when it's you but loosen your grip if it's life. Be all ears to what people have to say about you. But shut the doors on their face when they try to break you apart. Value relations but never the ones which are venomous. Be a selflessly selfish soul. Try to nurture confidence. That can only happen when you realise you're not in the least confident and that might push you to toil day and night. Tell yourself, "You're good. You're strong. Keep it up."