I am an introvert and insomniac, my biggest problem is that I notice everything. Maybe you can relate too?
Perhaps you, too, overthink people’s facial expressions. You notice the slightest frown or look of confusion and you immediately start analyzing what you said and did. You wonder, am I boring them? am I hurting their feelings? Did I offend them? Or maybe there’s no question. You are so perceptive that you can read people’s microexpressions like a book or a newspaper.
Many people say that being observant is one of an introvert’s best qualities. It is true, but I also think it can be the most painful, especially if you’re a sensitive introvert who picks up on people’s emotions, mood, and unspoken thoughts. Special when it relates to the people you love.
While I’m painfully observant of some things, I’m oblivious to others.
If you’re the same, you know that this can be an amazing gift. But if we’re not careful, it’s also a source of overthinking.
It’s all too easy to not only notice people’s moods and emotions, but take responsibility for them.
How many times have you picked up on someone’s sadness or anger and stressed yourself out wondering if it was something you did? Or if there’s something you could’ve done to make it better.
The anthem of the observant and overthinking introvert is “should could would”.
And it sucks. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Over the years, I have learned to stop overthinking other people’s reactions. When I catch myself starting to overanalyze, I dip into my state of mental reframes. Specially, when it someone we love or relate to.