Subjects (Part- 4)
Gradually over the time, you will find him behave unexpectedly, and it's hard to predict how he will behave. He always says the "right" things at the "right" time. But even after spending so much time, you never fully understand what he wants from you, you feel so many things, yet logically it's too swallow. A genuine person will make sense both logically and emotionally, he won't be a puzzle, or this interesting, any genuine person tend to be a bit of boring, because you can predict them. However, these Bastards are unpredictable, they react violently through the use of firm words. They seldom explain themselves, or over explain themselves for the reason why they did what they did. Through these tiny and subtle reactions from them, which apparently originated due to the "way you behaved" in a certain way, they are trying to "shape" you. They want you to "change", so that you can fit into the box they have created for you, the kind of box that's most suitable for them. Most of these fuckers are playboys disguised as "gentlemen". Stay with them long enough, and you can't recognizing yourself anymore. They will manipulate your entire identity, and that's where the danger lies. Identity is the most vital thing that you have developed over the years, and a real partner will help you "develop" your identity and let you "grow". He won't try to "shape" your identity into something different and urge you to "change". In most cases, these men tend not to get into a relationship in the first place, most of them are into "no strings attached" until we develop feelings/get to know each other.
I know its difficult to point out accurately, but let me help you spot one. He will be really great in flirting, usually he will start from text msgs. The way he flirts feels different, something you have never experienced before, different from other men. He knows how to be "fun" and not make himself appear "funny". He will compliment you usually after a long conversation, and his compliments will never be direct. It will be subtle, such as "that ear ring you wore last night, looked so good on you, what was the occasion?". You will find yourself remembering yourself and looking at yourself through his eyes, may be blush a little, and give him an answer or a statement instead of a "thank you", simply because he will never give direct compliments. Moreover, you have to "earn" his compliments, when he thinks you are at a certain point which serves his purpose, he will give you a subtle compliment, it's actually an "encouragement" for your cooperation. In his chats, he will usually talk with one liners, and will take proper time to reply back (to keep you waiting for him, to keep you craving for him). His replies will "hit" you and make you "think", to keep you "hooked". The conversations won't last long, it's always limited. If he's a pro, he will always talk to you at the same time everyday, repeatedly, to make you get into the habit of feeling his presence at a particular time. Suddenly after some time of repeated conversation with limited time in specific times, he will disappear for a day or two (not long). He won't explain you beforehand, his disappearance will be a "surprise" for you. And during the time you used to talk, you will feel restless and his absence will be terribly felt. Then suddenly when he appears, you will be overwhelmed, almost tears of joy. His game is designed to give you these roller coaster rides. Moreover, these fuckers seldom propose, they usually make the girl propose them. Not with force or pleading, but with strategic manipulations, tiny push giving them directions.
Some make use the weapon of "smell". They will put on the same perfume every time they meet you, over and over again. It's called "smell association". It makes your olfactory nervous system attach a particular scent to his persona, his image. This is a very sophisticated technique, to trigger your memories about him, years after he left you. The moment you smell something similar to what he have made you get acquainted, you can remember clearly, his features, the moments you shared with him, the way your heart beats were running wild, and the way he touched you. Everything becomes alive, even after he's gone. It's like leaving his signature within you forever, a mark, a scar on your identity, which is his creation!