Getting people to do something by asking for the opposite. Reverse psychology is a persuasive technique that involves getting someone to engage in the desired action or response by suggesting the opposite.
This involves emotional desire. Getting someone to experience and feel the guilt so you can feel free and not have the guilt strangling your throat.
By playing the innocent one in the game so that the other person could feel guilty and think they've done wrong. This makes the other person feel guilty and doubt their own decisions. It affects self-confidence.
To the one misusing reverse psychology card, do not misuse it so you could avoid self-guilt. Your instincts would definitely tell you deep down the guilt is still there. Face it and not throw it to an innocent person.
To the one being thrown this card, trust your guts and believe in facts. Don't let emotions fool you to doubting your own decisions. Be strong and take time to digest the information before you believe it all to be true. Don't let guilt overtake your innocence.
Reading a book or attending a session about an Islamic ruling you wish to study on or know more about, give you the opportunity to gain more knowledge about it. Whereas, Shaykh Google gives you just the exact answer to your question but you miss out on being exposed to more than just the answer.
That's why we see ourselves going back to Google next time we have an issue.
Not everything on Google is authentic Islam. You have to sieve through what you take. How would you know what to take and what to leave ?
By having the principles / conditions in mind. You gain those from institutes and centres of gaining knowledge.
It's time we stop depending on Shaykh Google.
The way of the salaf were to gain knowledge from books and lectures. Not everyone's learning preference is reading and listening. I know that. But, you can still use your learning preference to still gain the same knowledge. Whether it's auditory or reading or kinesthetic(physical) or visual or verbal or logical or social or solitary or even just combination of more than one learning preference.
amatullah_bm@bushra_sayed indeed Subhaana Allah...Islam taught us these things 1400 years ago but we kind of realise them now when psychologists start getting famous for these same ideologies and concepts. That's why I felt it was best to honour our religion and show the world how these same famous quotes have been there for ages ...we just didn't realize them till some celebrity says so... this isn't fair to our prophet's golden wisdom.. May Allah grant us wisdom and Tawfeeq in all that we do.
After a break-up, most of the times, the kids end up suffering due to their parents keeping up their egos. This too applies to those parents who always try to keep up with pleasing other human beings by punishing or insulting their own kids. They value their egos and reputation more than their kids mental wellbeing. It's the bitter truth but many of us are being culprits and enslaved to our own egos. May Allah guide us all. Ameen! Kids first and Egos last !
We find most of the people living in extended families have endless arguments and sometimes I wondered what is the main problem?
I figured out that the moment Contribution and Participation are neglected, then happiness is taken away from that family and anger and stress takes over.
What is Contribution and Participation ?
Contribution: This is where each of the family members contribute in fulfilling the family basic needs. Each member plays a role in the family chores, financial expenses and upbringing of the offsprings.
Participation: This is where each of the family members offers any type of service willingly out of love and to build the relationship. This excludes basic needs. It's based only on secondary needs.
For example : Bringing a pizza at home for everyone to eat. Taking the family to a short trip. Giving the family gifts.
The main aim is to: Build love amongst the family members and show unity and brotherhood.