charutiwari_@harshu05 I know people won't agree with all the things written here but I needed to express what I feel about it
subtly_a_paradoxI quite disagree with this. Cheating on someone is not and will never be okay
charutiwari_@subtly_a_paradox i totally respect your views.........I just wrote what I feel and well according to me emotional infidelity matters more than sexual infidelity and btw I never said cheating on someone is right but we should try to understand a person's state of mind when he/she does something like this and in many European countries this has been decriminalised too and now even in India
subtly_a_paradox@charutiwari_ I love how we are having a calm discussion about this! Thanks for being mature. Also to the points you raised, it was also legal to have slave and illegal for women to run marathons, my point being, laws aren't reliable. I also don't think it's okay for people to be jailed for cheating on people. But it also isn't okay to sympathise them, in my opinion no person who cares about the person they are with, will cheat. The person they cheat on suffers from so much humiliation and self doubt. The least cheaters can deal with is a little hostility, which is imo well deserved.
charutiwari_@subtly_a_paradox My opinion on this is slightly different........I have seen what cheating on someone is like or rather I should say I've been a victim of it too.But then i didn't fall in that pit of self pity instead I tried to grasp the situations.You also would agree with me that nobody ever thinks of himself/herself as wrong.Everyone's right in their opinion and they can justify their acts too so if someone is giving a reasonable excuse for something then probably we can just listen to their side of story too.Adultery is something which hasn't been talked about much till now.It's what we see in newspapers or news and that's often an illusion.....
"I lived on for 78 years. I sometimes forget things to do, people's names, events and even things I have done.. I don't always accept it. Who would like to? Would you? It strucks my ego. But, more than that my heart. To know that this is it and slowly everything is decaying.. I know she is unhappy. I know I am the cause of her unhappiness and regret. But, I don't know what I did! 50 years of marriage is a pride these days. I don't know what I did though to hurt her. Or do I? Is it that I don't want to remember. To leave those memories of some things behind and vow not to speak of them again? To have been loyal to the secrets more than.. Dementia! Ah! Such a bitter bliss to forget the past."