The love that is pure, real and selfless might come with a lot of ups and downs because it prepares you for becoming your better version. It helps you & your partner in growth in all three aspects - mentally, physically and spiritually. It stays with you till the end because the connection you make is pure and sacred. All the doubts and conflicts will dissolve into the ocean of love.
On the other hand, the love (what you think is love but actually it's just a shadow of love) that destroys you completely. You may feel pleasure and all good in the beginning but you know it's temporary because it has a self-motive, a plant of artificial love which you've cultivated from the seeds of deception & wrong intentions. Bitter seeds won't give you sweet fruits. It can not face the light of truth. It never meant to be in your life because it comes to your life only to teach you an important lesson, to show you where you're weak.
Our mind is fully filled up with what we are doing everyday.
An intelligent student is always thinks about who is more intelligent than him to go with a competition to constantly improve himself.
A farmer who grows vegetables, will always has a mind to think about other farmers field work to improve his yielding.
A cobbler who always see people's shoes and slippers whether it is torn or not so that he can stich it and can earn money.
A beautician is always looks at people's beauty first because they want to make people to look beautiful in return to earn a royalty
A writer. Once a writer always a writer. They to compare when they read a best story, article or a quote of someone's. Ohh how beautiful it is, if it is my thought.
And soo many in so many fields. Let it be in whatever field we work and automatically our mind is get to filled with that work. Profession? or Passion? we humans constantly improve ourselves knowingly and unknowingly with comparision and failures on the gooo...