That age when you are in your mid twenties or late twenties you start to witness a feeling of losing yourself. You spend a years investing in something that's too precious. It's like your first baby. It's your career. But suddenly you change your mind due to pressure from so called society to settle. We fight a lot but then breakdown happens.You decide to leave the negativity and settle. But handling a women who believes and puts in as much effort, handle equal woman isn't easy. It has never been easy for a society that grew up thinking that women are the last person to have dinner, they are suppose to serve others first. Growing up we just see our mothers making fresh hot chapatis (breads)and bringing them to the table. But we don't realise that by not telling that woman to sit and eat with everyone we are encouraging the same lesson and teaching our son or our daughter the same.
He said "It takes a lot of courage to handle ambitious, strong women and she listens to no one but herself."
Today am earning equal and I have put as much effort but no matter what I become. Till I don't feed my kids am a bad mother. Is it just a women's responsibility to take care of kids, got to Ptms and school functions. Is it wrong to be ambitious even in 30's. It's easy to say equality but it takes real guts to understand the meaning and make effort. Women like me ain't selfish they just love career as much as they love others. Because they fight with this society every day since they start working to reach a respectable place in life. And equality is when they learn to wake up for us. We ain't selfish but we too have dreams.
You are beautiful, strong and bold. Don't take away your happiness and uniqueness by comparing yourself with other unique ladies or women. Be comfortable in your skin. Do something for yourself as you want to do it and not for others. Uplift and empower each other because in today's times its a must. Never belittle yourself because of others opinions about you. Be financially independent. It will act as a catalyst for you to create a life of your own. Raise your voice against what you feel is wrong. Don't ignore your gut feeling. Don't be scared of anyone if you are doing right. Be true to yourself. See yourself with respect. If you won't respect your self - respect then how others will respect you or your self respect ? Stand firm. Atlast will say that, speak your heart out, be brave and pledge to be unapologetically YOU.
Happiest Women's Day to every dope women out there. (Which you all are)
So, yesterday was a bad day. I shoulda known. I did know, in fact. Just needed confirmation and finally got it. I always think I do not know things, then later I find I was right the entire time...
People, in general are ignorant. Only if they could see right through, as I do.
My darkness, has casted a shadow upon all me, all my life. A shadow, that is always there. I'm fully aware of it. I don't mind, it's a part of me now. It's me. I accept that. I will be 42, really soon. And if only, I could go back in time, and know what I know now. No teacher, or parent can really prepare a young adult for facing the cruel, amd uncensored world. People are cruel, for no reason. I get it. Not wanting to face their own flaws, and then take that out, on the wrong ones. And to me, that makes a beautiful person, just ugly to me.
I have fought depressed, ever since I can really remember. I wasn't the most liked person through school. I got made fun of. I wore glasses. I was 4 eyes. And, I really never let them get the best of me. Just whatever, let them put me down. It occured to me, the ones that wanna tear you down, are suffering the most. They have not yet learned for themselves, how it works out in the big world of evil.
Women, will do most anything for a man. I have, you have, she did. I have seen a man hit a woman, and she is steady kissing his ass. I never got that. I used to feel sorry for her, until it occurred to me... I had to ask. Do you enjoy being hit? The bruises you try to cover up, your black eyes? Her reply was yes, I do enjoy it, now. I was confused, lost and just blown away. How the Hell can this be ok?
Where I have lived, it's molded me into a person, I mind my business. You know that incident, I couldn't call the police. I couldn't get in that mess. I had to go outside and hope for it to end fast and in a hurry. It was difficult, you learn fast, you don't be calling the boys on some shit, like that. The next day, that same couple then went to a hotel, and had a great time. To this day, I don't get it. It's not for me to get. I stopped trying to get it. And I removed myself from her life. I can't watch her anymore.
So, now I have daughters, that have a boyfriend. Lillian, was telling me just last night how ugly she feels. I had to tell her, she had an advantage on most other young women. She is an Angel. She is beautiful, throughout her entire existence. Beautiful inside and out. That is what most women envy. If young women put as much time tearing other ones down, as they could building them up. I feel there would be less anxiety, less fear. Less expectations. Trying to please a man that can't see a woman on the inside. It's not worth it. And I been there. maybe I still am. I have gotten to a point, I have wasted so much time, on ignorance. Time I coulda spent, into the person I am today. Maybe I have it wrong.
The message is, never tear another down. You are having a fight within yourself, just as the next one is. Trying to set an image, of themselves. Concealing what makes them up, maybe that's what someone loves about you. Do not change, just because he puts you down. 9 times outta 10, if a man has friends, they are putting the woman down. They are jealous. That woman won't look their way. So, what is left to do, tell their friend how ugly she is. I lived that. 21 years ago, and history repeats itself. Through Lillian.
As a mother, this just is not cool. And there is not much I can do. Besides tell Lillian, she is better off alone, if that's the way it is. Forget it. It ends there. Apparently, someone needs to grow up. Finally, she has listened. And only she can make that decision. And I stand behind her, no matter what.
devanshi0@rumanmalik ow .. mirakee ki yhi prblm h girls or boys m pta nhi chalta .. by d way thnku so much deariee
_saurabh__nyYour name define your strength...` dev-ansh` only the girl like have such a power to describe the things wonen felt each and every month. But remember their are people who now support and care their family..in each way... Even in the periods.... world has change now... And only women have such power to bear this pain....a man can't....and never be... never
Gratitude keeps you on ground but helps you build bigger castles!!
Gratitude, thankfulness, or gratefulness about anything that is happening in your life is highly important because it changes challenging situation into opportunities for growth! It unlocks the fullness of life! It helps you accept your reality and turn what we have in our lives is enough for us! It's okay to have dreams, it's okay to aspire to grow, to evolve, to learn , to achieve big things but it is also important to celebrate your own selves , your current achievements , your current relationships and your current life .
A women, a simple word; Having different meanings. A character! That plays Most of its roles in one life. They are the Laxmi Of every home. They are the Saraswati For the illetrates. They are the Durga For every evil. But, the list has yet not finished!
She is the daughter Of a proud father. She is the wife Of a caring husband. She is the bahu Of a conscious mother-in-law. She is the mother, A women of all qualities. & she is the old lady Full of experiences....
But, there is a fear! Fear of being a girl. Yes! FEAR OF BEING A GIRL....
Why saying so??? Because, Now the society has become a hell. A hell, Where there is restrictions on girls.
Restriction! On their clothes. Restriction! On their way of talking. Restriction! On, With whom they are talking. Restriction! On the hangouts. Restriction! On their carrer choices. And, laab! Laab! Laab!
Still they adjust And adjustments means: They are weak???
Bad touch. Rapes. Sexual harassment. Beating down. Dowry: tag, every girl should carry. & various forms of abuses. That still pose a threat.. A threat: To Live or to Die!
Now, a women is made to Become a toy; A toy, with which Anyone can play, & at anytime They want;
Because our society Is a hell. A hell of only spectators! That only sees the drama & after that spits the word of concerns! And, After few days; The new script becomes ready And the NEXT PLAY BEGINS....