If you wonder why are you slow in your success staircase in any field in this life. Whether it's financial, economical, social, educational, physical, healthwise, mentally etc.
Try establishing your Salaah with keeping it's time and trying to learn more about it so that you could perfect it as prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم said: "Pray like how you see me pray." صلوا كما رأيتموني أصلي Also Allah tells us about keeping the time in Salaah, when He says: An-Nisa' 4:103
And when you have completed the prayer, remember Allah standing, sitting, or [lying] on your sides. But when you become secure, re-establish [regular] prayer. Indeed, prayer has been decreed upon the believers a decree of specified times. There's no excuse for not praying at all. If you can't stand then sit and if you can't sit then lie down and if you can't move your body then pray with showing ishaara ( directions) using your eyes.
If you can't pray because you have no water then use dust/soil to perform dry ablution ( Tayammum) As you can notice, there's NO excuse for missing the daily obligatory prayers upon us.
This stresses how much Allah wants us all to be successful in life because Salah is linked with Success. You cannot find peace of mind without Salaah. You cannot be successful financially, physically, healthwise etc. Without Salaah.
It's the foundation that holds the success staircase. Build that foundation and see how easier you run on the stairs with joy and happiness.
If you've read till here then I hope you start keeping time with your Salaah.
The moment you start categorizing whatever responsibility you have in life into what's a MUST for you and what's an OPTION for you then life becomes easier to manage and enjoy.
Most of us indulge ourselves into so many sunnah activities (which I truly encourage) just my advice is do not get lost along the way and start neglecting what's obligatory upon you.
This differentiation goes down to even your relationship with your kids and spouses to your relationship with your friend. Someone who is your blood relative and someone who is a close friend. I know some may argue that some friends are like family. But there are still others who are literary are just friends, so Identify the classes there and level of closeness you have.
This even targets our ibaadah acts. Our Salah, our Sawm, Our Zakaah, Our Hajj ...and so on...
It's simple algorithms. You cannot take number 2 highly when number 1 is there. You cannot take highly of certain sunnah acts whilst you neglect your fardh acts.
This goes further more to even your parenting responsibility. You cannot take your kids for granted and take other students in class/work highly. Your kids are your number 1 category.. You are their first teacher. Prophet taught us: "O Messenger of Allah! Who is most deserving of my fine treatment?" He (ﷺ) said, "Your mother, then your mother, then your mother, then your father, then your nearest, then nearest".
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
Even your own parents have levels as long as they ask you to do what is right, forbid what is evil and do not ask you to disobey Allah.
Islam has 5 pillars which are Shahada, Salah, Zakah, Sawm and Hajj. We all may have faults in one or two or even all pillars of Islam. Give more attention to one of them without neglecting the others.
Put your energy and time to learn and perfect it. Whether it's your obligatory Salah or your obligatory fast or your giving out share of money and wealth or your Aqeedah and belief in Allah and His prophet or performing Umrah or going to perform hajj (still needs preparation physically, mentally and financially too.)
The point is when you try to grab everything all at once at the end you end up giving it up. Small baby steps always always works. Keep performing the 5 pillars of Islam as usual but build more time and energy on perfecting one of them for this 30 days period.
Allah says: Surah Al-Maun, Verse 4: فَوَيْلٌ لِّلْمُصَلِّينَ
Allah talks about the quality and value of your Salah. He reprimands those who do not take heed and be mindful of their Salah.
You won't be mindful of an ibaadah act if you truly don't try to perfect the quality of it.
Thus taking the baby steps of perfecting that one pillar by gaining knowledge on it, without neglecting the other pillars.
The result is that you'll get trained into it and become perfect at it, bidnillah.
Learn something new about it and unlearn the wrong information you knew about it. There are so many wrong concepts we know and do and there are so many right concepts waiting to be learnt yet we don't know.
Many people give advices when they are requested but the attitude they give it is in a condescending manner. We do not know it till we reflect on the situations we've been asked for an advice.
Sometimes it's okay to lay the facts on someone's face but do it in a calm, gentle and positive attitude.
Patronizing them makes them feel helpless and not able to stand up for themselves.
Instead of building their confidence, you are destroying and extinguishing the tiniest sparkle left in them to stand up for themselves.
Giving advices requires wisdom. Whoever is granted wisdom then he/she should be grateful. By being grateful means do not look down upon those who were not gifted this ability. Which further means do not patronize anyone!
Having wisdom is a gift and it's not given to everyone. Allah says: ((He gives wisdom to whom He wills, and whoever has been given wisdom has certainly been given much good. And none will remember except those of understanding.)) [2:269]
Allah says : ((And We had certainly given Luqman wisdom [and said], "Be grateful to Allah." And whoever is grateful is grateful for [the benefit of] himself. And whoever denies [His favor] - then indeed, Allah is Free of need and Praiseworthy.)) [31:12]
To the one seeking this advice: Do not let someone patronize you. Don't take it as an offense but rather assert yourself in a calmand positive manner. Show them who is in control and keep that flame of courage and confidence blazing more.