When you choose to remain calm, understanding, and considerate during a certain dramatic scene that has been played before, then you have outgrown those distractions and they seem petty & wastage of energy, time and focus.
Pat on your back for growing up!
The prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم used to choose to remain calm during certain intriguing situations. Maryam bint Imran عليها السلام was instructed to remain silent during the birth of Nabii Issa عليه السلام Zakariyah عليه السلام was asked to remain silent for 3 days.
Imam Malik was known for his quietness and the one who wasn't afraid to answer with لا أعلم ( I do not know ) when he was questioned to give rulings to certain situations.
This shows the importance of choosing silence. If prophets and righteous beings chose it, then who are we to speak up, when you know deep inside, it will just add more oil to the burning flame ?
This isn't the first time this has happened. Remaining calm during a play means you have grown mentally and attained a level of wisdom that not many can understand.
Choose silence when a certain past scenario is being played again in front of your eyes.
Trying to figure yourself out isn't any easy task. We've been surrounded by stigmatized ethics that are meant and designed to frame and define each one of us. These ethics end up destroying us. At the end of this hustle is the fact that you come to know better your true inner self. How far you can go to achieve what you want!
A lion doesn't seem untamed when it's in it cave. The moment it breaks out then those manipulative humans no longer have control over it.
We keep being caved in for years and years. And that completely destroys who we are. We live by the belief and plans of others. Our lives become a rollercoaster.
Let that trial process help you grow out of that cave and stand up for yourself.